Spring Parents on the Go Newsletter, from Family Services of Greater Vancouver, and the New West ECD Committee: Spring Newsletter 2013 (final)
From March 2013
In the Know with FORCE Society for Kids’ Mental Health
The F.O.R.C.E. Society for Kids’ Mental Health is a provincial organization that provides families with an opportunity to speak with other families who understand and may be able to offer support.
Their “Friends for Life” online program help parents address children’s anxiety. Check out their website: www.forcesociety.com
‘In the know’ is a montly networking and info sharing session that provides a topic experts for parents. Next session is April 10th. Flyer:
Money Skills in May in Queensborough
Upcoming Money Skills series at the Queensborough Community Centre, Wednesday evenings May 8,15,22 from 6-8:30 pm. Details: Money Skills Workshop Flyer – May 2013
Big World Band at Massey March 30th
Big World Band is playing New Westminster at the Massey Theatre on Saturday March 30 at 8 pm.
The band includes master musicians playing sitar and tabla from India, Persian oud and drums, Chinese lute and guitar, acoustic bass and John plays classical guitar.
Tickets available in advance through the Massey and at the door.
http://www.earsay.com/bwb/events/index.html
Family Place April Calendar
New West Family Place has two parenting programs starting in April-Nobody’s Perfect and SFU’s Information Children. Check out their April Calendar here: April 2013 front April 2013 back
Easter Bunny comes to New West March 31st!
Don’t miss the Easter Bunny, petting zoo, and entertainers in Queens Park March 31st, 11am to 2pm! Details here: Easter Flyer
Nobody Likes A Tattletale
By Linda M. Tobias
As a freelance writer, I work from home. There are times that I get immersed in complex technical work or I’m racing to meet a deadline, and the last thing that I need is to be policing the activities of my kids. I don’t want to be sorting out who gets to use what crayon or how the Legos will be put together. I want the kids to play nicely together and work out their own disagreements. I, therefore, have no patience for tattletales.
But, at the same time, I do want my kids to come to me when there’s a legitimate problem. If one of them decides to give the iPad a bath, stick the cat in the fridge or scale the bookcase to see whether they jump across the room to land on the bed, these are things I need to know about.
So, how do I encourage my kids to watch out for each other and report information that could help them stay safe and out of bigger trouble, while discouraging them from coming to me with every inane conflict they have? What’s the difference between being a tattletale and being a concerned sibling or friend?
Well, it comes down to the reason that my kid has come running to me. Is he looking to get someone INTO trouble or OUT OF trouble? Having him attempt to get a peer into trouble is frustrating for all concerned. No parent wants their offspring to be “that kid.” But solidarity and independence only go so far. If someone’s in trouble or about to get into trouble, I want to be told before the science experiment leaves a bowling ball lodged in the ceiling. In that case, having one of my boys tell me about the other’s actions is going to save his brother from making a colossal mistake and getting the resulting punishment.
To help my boys learn the difference between being a tattletale and being responsible, I’ve started to ask them questions when one comes to report on the exploits of the other.
“Why are you telling me?”
“Is your brother in trouble?”
“Will your brother get into trouble if I don’t stop him?”
Over time, I hope that their developing critical thinking skills will let them question their motivations and will let them come up with their own solution to the problem.
How do you help your kids not tattletale?
Kids New West is pleased to welcome Linda Tobias, a New West mom, writer, and editor. Read more of Linda Tobias’ writing at: http://innewwestwithkids.com/
NW Family Place receives Community Spirit Award
New Westminster Family Place received the 2012 UWLM Community Spirit Award! Congratulations! Video link here: http://uwlm.ca/2012-celebration-community-awards
Last Storytime with Mrs. Heaney April 17th!
Worries and Woes: Preventing Anxiety in Children Apr. 4
Worries and Woes: Preventing Anxiety in Children with Dr. Lynn Miller on April 4th, 7 to 9pm in Vancouver.
Details: http://dalailamacenter.org